You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist

If you have a son, you need to be aware of the information in today’s episode.

When he was in sixth grade, Shane Cole discovered sissy hypnosis pornography. A secretive and shameful addiction to this disturbing sexual content impacted his formative years, and ultimately led him to identify as transgender and experiment with cross-sex hormones. But today, he is a health-conscious, detransitioned young man who leads trauma-informed Breathwork workshops and studies Tibetan Buddhism. How did he get here?

Shane shares his deeply personal journey of overcoming an addiction to sissy hypnosis pornography — and an alarming message to parents about the prevalence and accessibility of this brainwashing online material. We delve into the emotional turmoil that this type of content can inflict, particularly on young boys, and how it intertwines shame, trauma, and pleasure in a way that can lead to destructive patterns of behavior. Shane explains how this genre of pornography exploits male insecurities and can lead to a distorted sense of identity, including a brief period where he believed he was transgender.

We explore the alarming rise of sissy hypnosis content online, particularly among young men, and discuss the implications of this trend for parents and society at large. Shane highlights the importance of understanding the psychological impact of such material, including the cognitive dissonance it creates in sensitive young men who are trying to navigate their identities in a world filled with conflicting messages about masculinity and femininity.

Surprisingly, like other detransitioners I’ve spoken with here, Shane credits his awakening in part to psychedelics. He speaks about how trauma-informed Breathwork, meditation, and other mind-body practices have helped ground him in a new, healthy sense of self.

Throughout our discussion, we aim to uncover the underlying factors that contribute to these issues, including societal pressures, the influence of social media, and the lack of open conversations about male sexuality. This episode serves as a wake-up call for parents and listeners to recognize the potential dangers lurking online and the urgent need for dialogue around these topics.

Shane Cole is a trauma-informed breathwork facilitator and founder of Inspiratus Breathwork. After studying psychology at the University of Southern California and completing a nine-month, trauma-informed breathwork facilitator training program, he travels the country to musical festivals and retreats teaching breathwork. With Inspiratus, he creates sacred spaces for humans to cultivate purpose, positivity, and presence through his research-backed approach to breathwork. Throughout his life, he struggled with gender dysphoria and an addiction to sissy hypnosis pornography. After traditional talk therapy did not assist or even want to address the issues he faced, he turned to alternative solutions. Using breathwork, meditation, IFS therapy, psychedelic-assisted therapy, and men's work, he was able to free himself from his addiction, come back to his masculinity, and reclaim his innocence. He is now on a mission to bring breathwork practices to clients struggling with gender dysphoria and pornography addiction. 

Website: https://www.inspiratusbreathwork.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breathingwithshane/

 00:00 Start

[00:01:12] Sissy hypnosis pornography addiction.

[00:05:16] Sissy hypno porn and its effects.

[00:12:46] Epigenetics and inherited trauma.

[00:16:27] The devil frequency in hypnosis.

[00:21:24] Male-dominated trans-identified community.

[00:28:11] Shame and gender dysphoria.

[00:29:08] Addiction to dark pornography.

[00:34:03] CIA and mind control theories.

[00:38:19] Forced feminization in hypnosis porn.

[00:44:32] Cognitive dissonance in masculinity.

[00:49:59] Feminization as perceived safety.

[00:52:27] Validation and gender dysphoria.

[00:56:32] The impact of pornography addiction.

[01:00:51] Detransitioning and psychedelics insights.

[01:07:35] Breathwork training and meditation.

[01:08:27] Spiritual practices and self-acceptance.

[01:15:09] Breathwork as emotional catharsis.

[01:16:55] Emotional catharsis and healing.

[01:21:31] Male sexual shadow and healing.

[01:25:12] Masculine rites of passage.

[01:31:06] Breathwork in music venues.

[01:34:08] Breathwork for purpose and healing.

[01:38:31] Custom camping breathwork retreat.

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