You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist

In this episode, I sit down with Nicholas Blooms, a detransitioner, artist, and creator of a unique graphic novel. Nicholas shares his profound journey of detransitioning, delving into the spiritual and emotional aspects of reclaiming his sense of self and finding a sustainable, embodied way of living. I explain my current model of how gender dysphoria changes over time along the spectrum between ego-syntonic and ego-dystonic — a key piece of psychological insight missing from the current culture wars over the treatment of gender-distressed youth — and we compare my hypothesis with Nicolas’ lived experience.

Together, we explore the transformative powers of mentorship, mindfulness, and self-acceptance, touching on the deep wounds of childhood and the impact of societal pressures on identity. But what led Nicholas to create a detransition graphic novel, unlike anything seen before? How did a chance encounter with a mentor spark a journey of healing and self-discovery? And what role did gender ideology play in Nicholas's struggle with self-hatred and body dysmorphia? Tune in to uncover the answers and join us on a heartfelt exploration of resilience, growth, and the power of embracing one's true self.

Nicolas Blooms is a Detransitioner, Gender Shaman, and ArtSoulogist. He is full of fruity passion to create ways for people to spark the deeper magical wisdom within their hearts. While training as a life coach to guide Detransitioners and gender confused individuals, he also co-creates a children’s book series, You Can’t Steal My Smile, with his friend Kim O, a Relational Soul Coach (from episode 80!), to empower children to root in their inner resilience. Witness his liberating journey to self-love and remembering his Soul by soaking in his graphic novel: Trans to Detrans: A Soul Solution. It’s totally possible to heal gender dysphoria and any other mental dis-ease!

Find Nicolas Blooms: linktr.ee/nicolasblooms

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicolasblooms

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@NicolasBlooms

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00:00 Start

[00:01:41] Detransition graphic novel creation.

[00:06:16] Mentorship and spirituality.

[00:10:50] Mentorship and self-transformation.

[00:13:36] Rejecting masculinity and identity.

[00:19:30] Gender identity exploration.

[00:22:39] War with self-image.

[00:25:27] Gender transition and family support.

[00:31:25] Emotional expression and self-identity.

[00:35:26] Cultural challenges and self-identity.

[00:39:26] Overcoming childhood bullying trauma.

[00:44:20] Battle with body image.

[00:46:48] The power of hope.

[00:51:54] Gender euphoria and emotional instability.

[00:54:48] Gender dysphoria and self-expression.

[01:02:06] Inner conflict and self-discovery.

[01:06:18] Gender ideology as a virus.

[01:07:01] Healing within family systems.

[01:12:48] Ego dystonic and ego syntonic.

[01:14:33] Gender dysphoria progression.

[01:19:21] Overcoming gender dysphoria.

[01:23:14] Stories of victory and resolution.

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